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Yes, but it will be different. Sometimes that's a good thing. No more pretense, no putting up with family members who backbite and lie. No more family dinners where we have to keep the peace with people who speak and act outrageously. Don't just wipe the old slate, get a new one and draw pretty flowers on it with colored chalk! Did you know that you can digitally crop mean family members out of old photos? It's really good therapy.
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golden23 Nov 2022
No more family "occasions". What a relief!!!! Digitally cropping out certain family members. That might be fun. I like the idea of a new slate and drawing flowers on it.
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Your words touch me deeply. You went through so much. And you helped so much.

Your mom was similar to my mom: abusive, critical, put-downs…

I’m still caregiving, so I’m not where you are right now. Your question is: Can we really start again?

YES.

YOU WILL and YOU CAN.
The best is ahead of you, waiting for you!

…Heal.
…Meet great, kind people.
…Having wonderful people in one’s life makes all the difference.
…ELIMINATE BAD PEOPLE in your life, also from the internet.

What you kick out of your life is important too, just as much as what you keep in your life.

YOU’LL BUILD A GREAT, NEW LIFE.

People often think “this or that” is impossible, until someone achieves it and shows it’s totally possible.

:)

One also needs luck.
HERE IS LUCK your way :).
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golden23 Nov 2022
That was a great pep talk. We can't choose our family but we can choose our friends and we meed to choose supportive ones. Your time will come.
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I think a lot of elderly care issues among family can be summed up by the old saying "you can forgive but never forget". I have forgiven my mother, my brothers and a couple other family members. I did for my own peace of mind, but I can't ever forget the things they said and did over the years.
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golden23 Nov 2022
I have forgiven too, but some things seem to be hard to forget.
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