My 88 year old father has Parkinson's and was living at home with my mother. We had hospice care for him where nurse came a couple of times to help with medication management and an aide gave him shower/shave 2-3 times per week but he needed more and mother wasn't able to help so he got moved to nursing home. During the 5 day respite period, when my mother went to visit, they tried to leave (neither of them drive) and set off alarm. The nursing home says they can't manage him properly so they want to discharge him but hospice says he won't have proper care at his home with my mother and he has to have caregiver or be released to a facility that's further away that has a lock down facility. My sister is managing my dad's financials, paying household bills from his small pension & SS but my mother refuses to relinquish control of her small income and keeps buying stuff. Has anyone had this happen and what did you do?
Just make it clear that you are no no position to accept care of him and that you will not be able to accept him into your home, that the problem of placement must be theirs.
Hospice is correct. He will not have in home care via hospice. They only come for two bedbaths a week and one brief RN visit. That's it. Homegoing is not an option. They may find in facility hospice, tho that is becoming very rare indeed.