Mom is in AL. Stage 5 ALZ. She will run out of funds in about 18 months. IF she is not ready for Skilled Care at that time, her children will pool funds to pay for AL balance that she can not afford after pension and SS. Will helping her affect her ability to qualify for Medicaid when she does need Skilled Care?
You and your husband aren't all that old which may make all of your husbands ailments even harder to bear - especially alone. Though you have no children now who can help you, there may be adults who can.
Perhaps if you call your local Area Agency on Aging you can get the name of a counselor who can just let you tell your story. The Alzheimer's Association also has social workers who can come to the house to do an evaluation. Reaching out any way that you can is important.
One good tool is to go to www.aging.gov and click on "state services." Find your state and see what they have to offer for support.
Meanwhile, please keep in touch with us here on this forum. We care about each other and understand how hard all of this can be.
Take care of yourself by reaching out, Moondance, and please update us on how your are doing.
Carol
What state is she located? Don't they have a special category for Disabled people? My loved one comes under a different category from regular assisted living due to the severe dementia. Hopefully, someone who can answer your question will chime in here. If not, I would consult with an attorney who focuses on Medicaid law and/or check with a Medicaid rep. I'm not sure I would rely on the word of the facility, since they have a vested interest in the family continuing to self pay.
GOD BLESS YOU & WATCH OVER YOUR MOM....
Have a wonderful Christmas from an old lady who is all alone...My children all have left this earth.
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