Mom is 86, with moderate to advances dementia. She's confused about the moment of the day. Still recognized me most of the time at first. Last year the Direction of her residence prefered she stayed there to " take root" in her new environment.
Would it be confusing for her to come at my home and see some of her furniture mixed with mine or will it be comforting since it is what she wished ( that I have her most precious furniture that couldn't fit in her new apartment.) Also it' s a constant fight to make her clean herself. I' m happy when I succeed to make her change a 3 week old dirty pants!
Our Easter party is small : I and my hubby and 3 other members of the family.
The change will it be beneficial or harmful according to your experiences? After all as goes the saying" hell is paved with good intentions". I want this to be a happy reunion but am I dreaming of something that won' t return as before? Will it be good for her or for me? Thanks!
I would guess that your mother would find the two-homes combo confusing; and will she recognise the other family members? It doesn't sound like the best plan ever.
I suppose you wouldn't consider joining her and her fellow residents for their Easter lunch? Seriously, if you want to do good and increase the sum total of happiness in the world, that's your answer.
But you are also entitled to enjoy a nice Easter lunch, with grown ups, free of difficult old people, their embarrassing smells and the donkey work of communicating with them.
Your mother won't scrub up specially for the occasion, come home, smile fondly at her furniture and the reminiscences it brings, enjoy her lunch and go back to the facility to tell her new friends all about her day, no.
Am I helping??? :/
And yes, last year, Ireceived my family on Saturday and pass the Sunday with mom in her memory care. Perhaps it' s better to do the same this year. Country Mouse pretty much nailed it with her so realistic description😑. Thank you again. God bless you all.