How on earth do I cope with this huge stressful problem. My mum is pottering around the rooms and cluttering everywhere the house looks like its been burgled. Everywhere I go boxes clothes when I ask her what on earth shes doing she gets angry and says she cleaning up NO SHES NOT shes making a huge mess and just leaving stuff everywhere.
Im so tired and just cant keep this up its getting serious its very dangerous there's stuff everywhere and she can easily fall and break her neck.
I just cant reason with her and she just gets nasty.
Ive tried to call the nurse as she dosnt know about the diagnosis yet and ive really had no help or advice from the pros yet?
I have to get her to daycare centre or ill die before she does its just lately shes becoming obsessed with cluttering thinking shes doing something helpful its just so stressful.
How do I cope with this I need a professional to come in and assess the house its so dangerous.
This is the one part of dementia that has to be contained ive now read that a clear decluttered house is paramount not only for safety but makes them LESS confused which makes sense.
Its time to take control now and I cant argue with her alone I need back up this whole house needs to be decluttered for once and for all or she will hurt herself.
Gosh my mum was a stubborn woman but this is insaine.
Is anyone else going through this?
Even as im typing I can hear cluttering noises im afraid to go into the kitchen now as ive just made soup and cleaned the whole kitchen already HELP!!!!!!
My mother went through a time when she was rummaging drawers and closets. It was nerve-wracking and messy. Fortunately, the phase passed quickly. Sometimes I asked what she was looking for, and sometimes she would answer and I would try to direct her some. Sometimes it worked and other times it didn't. I usually ended up coming behind her and straightening the mess that was made. When I straightened, I worked with her on it, so it didn't upset her more.
Going back to hanging onto the edge of the hole -- today I realized that I was having strong feelings and reactions that were not like me. I realized that I was afraid that something would loosen the dirt of my grasp and I would fall into the hole of total incompetence. It helped me to realize that I wasn't going crazy. I am just trying to hold things together without anyone extending a hand to help. The only people in our lives really don't care enough to get involved in a meaningful way. The professionals take the money and say good luck. The family says things look fine to them -- an easy out to not getting involved.
The only advice I have is see if there is a medication that helps, call in any backup troops you have available, and cleanup behind her, letting her participate in your reorganization. Most of all, realize that when you're feeling crazy that you're not. You are just having to be too competent to hold things together. Dementia is such a cruel thing.
everyday i have to learn to "let go" if she falls she falls. I cant keep having a panic eveytime she does something "MAD"
Today I went for a walk to clear my head the clutter is just so stressful and the worst thing is im up early and clean the whole house then late afternoon when all you want is some peace SHES OFF rummaging,half cleaning,putting products around stuff and leaving them there. House smells of urine am I a happy caregiver YIKES!!!!!!!!! There must be a drug that WE can take to make us laugh everytime they infuriate us a couldnt give a toss drug something to calm the nerves. Its all about them WE need drugs we could call it the "coping drug" a pill you just pop and everything they do makes you laugh AND gives you super energy.
Better go now have cooking and cleaning to do AND to RUB salt on my wounds this guy down the road ive fancied for years and havnt seen in about 6mths has gotten himself married and shes pregnant! How do you do that in 6mths he was single last time we met where the hell is MY LIFE! So fed up. As you can imagine my face...." IM SOOOOOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU" i actually cried on the way home not just because I fancied him but what the hell have I done in 6mths ran around looking after MUM! really made me realise that my life needs to change and soon.
Also a new band im listening to "kodaline" irish, listen to their new song and weep into your pillow I love this song but its soooo our lives and very sad but true song title is "life passes you by" so apt i listened to this the other night feeling so down then realised I have to get my life back on track and pretty damn quick! Doc says i need a holiday i said no doc I need peace a wk away aint going to cut it I need to be me again!
Oh silly you JB didnt you check the plugs first before you changed bulbs!!!! LOL
You know shes sitting here watching most haunted then will sh..herself here one night when Im not here? I dont get it "if you try and reason with madness you get violence"