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I have been caring for my husband for 5 years. I am doing things I would have never thought I would be doing. I keep telling him I can't be his caregiver as well as his wife or lover.
Marylou, I know about being torn between the needs of an elder (your spouse, my multiple elders) and a child with needs that other parents don't have to consider.
The child's needs will always be with you no matter how old he or she gets. The older person is vulnerable and needs your help. It's exhausting to say the least and it's easy to feel hopeless.
Taking each day as it is and trying to find some way, even if it's small, to give yourself a treat helps. Support from people who understand each side of the spectrum helps.
Faith has helped me. However, we who have children who will always need us have to wonder what will become of them when we are gone. It's not an easy life. Blessings to you for trying to find ways to cope. Carol
Can I be honest? My husband has PD he is 73 I am 55. Yep! He has had PD for about 10 yrs. We also have a 13 yr old on the Autism Spectrum. I ask myself this question every day. What is my role in life????
My husband is 61 and diagnosed over 11 years ago. He's doing very well but we have noticed the dyskinesia is recently much worse. Every Parkinson's patient is different and we are very open with each other and family as well as our GP and the neurologist. We haven't needed much help but I do go to a support group and we are taking more time for ourselves. I would not hesitate to look for help if we needed it. I also take care to get my rest, enjoy my work and take care of my health as well as my husband's. I see so many accounts of those who have far worse situations than ours and I hope they can get the help they need!
Although it has been quite taxing and with no little degree of stress, I've found it possible to be partner and care giver for Carolyn for the past eight (8) years. Surprise! Guess I am the first male to share a response. It is necessary, I think, to accept that one will only be able to make those personal sacrifices that one deems acceptable in caregiving. Others will simply have to be bargained out. You are NOT alone. KNOW that there is a wealth of support available in the community.
I also take care of a husband with Parkinson's Disease. One of the things that has helped me is the local caregivers support group that meets once a month. There are two men from our church that come to stay with him while I attend the meeting. We share experiences, solutions, fustrations and triumps with one another. It helps keep me sane and understand his struggle better.
I also take care of a husband with Parkinson's Disease. One of the things that has helped me is the local caregivers support group that meets once a month. There are two men from our church that come to stay with him while I attend the meeting. We share experiences, solutions, fustrations and triumps with one another. It helps keep me sane and understand his struggle better.
What you are attempting to do is difficult for anyone. Some people blend the roles more easily than others, but it's hard for nearly anyone. I'd suggest that you talk with a counselor to help you define your roles and let go of any guilt you may feel (caregivers live with guilt - at least any I've known - most of it unearned). I'm glad you can talk honestly with your husband. It sounds as if you need to start getting some in-home help to do some of the caregiving so you can concentrate on being his wife/lover. Please contact the National Parkinson's Foundation (www.parkinsons.org) for some help, and look for support groups for spouses of Parkinson's. I'd also recommend the Well Spouse Association (www.wellspouse.org) for online support. Take care of yourself, too. Carol
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The child's needs will always be with you no matter how old he or she gets. The older person is vulnerable and needs your help. It's exhausting to say the least and it's easy to feel hopeless.
Taking each day as it is and trying to find some way, even if it's small, to give yourself a treat helps. Support from people who understand each side of the spectrum helps.
Faith has helped me. However, we who have children who will always need us have to wonder what will become of them when we are gone. It's not an easy life. Blessings to you for trying to find ways to cope.
Carol
or this: sselder/. Good thing you are looking for help!!
BTW it looks like you live in a very beautiful town...
I'm glad you can talk honestly with your husband. It sounds as if you need to start getting some in-home help to do some of the caregiving so you can concentrate on being his wife/lover. Please contact the National Parkinson's Foundation (www.parkinsons.org) for some help, and look for support groups for spouses of Parkinson's. I'd also recommend the Well Spouse Association (www.wellspouse.org) for online support.
Take care of yourself, too.
Carol