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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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I brought mom home from the hospital today with Compasionate Care (hospice for cardiac patients) They have eased a lot of my anxiety. It still seems so unreal. Mom seems to know wht is happening one minute and not the next. She is in as much of denial as I am. I started a project a few months ago that she and I are going to finish. I bought a recorder so that my children and my grandchildren can hear her tell the stories of what it was like to be a child of immagrant parents, to live through the depression, how she met grandpa and was mom really a brat when she was little. Thank you all for your support. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
Yes, you can be strong. What you are feeling bad about? Listen: It doesn't matter. Forget all that other stuff and just be there for Mom. You can do it. Breathe. Vent and get it out. We are here for you ! :) xo
Use the time you have left to make her as comfortable as possible and relive old memories if she's up to it. Bring out the photo albums, ask her any family-related questions you can think of you want answers to (what was it like when she went to school? does she know where her great-grandparents came from? etc. ) Most importantly, WRITE IT ALL DOWN! Do you have children? If so, ask her if she can write them a letter to be read when they graduate/get married/have a child - whatever applies... something that will be special to them later. If "watching her pass" is too much for you, call her primary doctor and have him/her order hospice - they can walk you through the process and be a source of strength for you.
I have asked my mother questions lately that would have been so inappropriate even a few years ago.Who was a pregnant bride, who did time in jail, who had affairs, any secret children, any scandals..........she told me many stories of relatives and friends (all gone now)...and we laughed and laughed. A few of them really shocked me! What I am saying is use humor and memories and flowers she can still enjoy NOW, and ice cream,and funny hats... whatever it takes to enjoy what time you have left together. These memories you will be making now are for you to have the peace ,knowing her last days were great ones.
I understand why people say, "Be strong". But there's nothing wrong with being a little weak now and then. It's ok to cry. It's ok to grieve even though she's still with you. It's normal.
You must be so grateful to have reconnected with your mom when it matters the most. It doesn't matter what happened before. You're with her now and that's all that counts.
Watching a parent live their last days is torture. I know. I lost my dad 10 days ago and I was with him constantly. Yes, it tore me up but I was able to be there for him and I'm so grateful for that. I wasn't there when he died but I know he knew how much I loved him. It was the very last thing I said to him, "I love you, dad." I don't know if he heard me or not, I like to think on some level he did, but I got to say it. How many people lose people they love and were not able to tell them they loved them before they died? It's truly a gift.
But cry all you need to. If you cry in front of your mom that's ok too. It's an honest and raw emotion and there's nothing wrong in that. Tell her what you need to tell her. Listen to her if she needs to talk. You've been given a gift although it may not seem like it now.
It's ok to hurt. It's ok to be scared. It's ok to be sad. Your mom is going through a process and so are you. Walk through it together.
Your wisdom is precious eyeirshlass. We are so glad you are here.I,again, am so sorry for your loss and so happy for you that you had the ability to say goodbye and tell him you loved him. You are right about how important that is in the healing/grieving process.
Even though your Mother is in her condition, you still deserve you. Try to focus on your health and well-being and then you will be good to her as well. My well wishes to you!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You can do it. Breathe. Vent and get it out. We are here for you ! :) xo
What I am saying is use humor and memories and flowers she can still enjoy NOW, and ice cream,and funny hats... whatever it takes to enjoy what time you have left together. These memories you will be making now are for you to have the peace ,knowing her last days were great ones.
You must be so grateful to have reconnected with your mom when it matters the most. It doesn't matter what happened before. You're with her now and that's all that counts.
Watching a parent live their last days is torture. I know. I lost my dad 10 days ago and I was with him constantly. Yes, it tore me up but I was able to be there for him and I'm so grateful for that. I wasn't there when he died but I know he knew how much I loved him. It was the very last thing I said to him, "I love you, dad." I don't know if he heard me or not, I like to think on some level he did, but I got to say it. How many people lose people they love and were not able to tell them they loved them before they died? It's truly a gift.
But cry all you need to. If you cry in front of your mom that's ok too. It's an honest and raw emotion and there's nothing wrong in that. Tell her what you need to tell her. Listen to her if she needs to talk. You've been given a gift although it may not seem like it now.
It's ok to hurt. It's ok to be scared. It's ok to be sad. Your mom is going through a process and so are you. Walk through it together.