I am mom's only child and have no voice legally about her care.How do I get her current POA revoked ASAP!

You say you cannot afford a private attorney. Go see the JAG officer and then go talk to your local Office of the Aging. They might be able to put you in touch with an attorney who can help you.

This situation is remarkable. My blood is boiling just reading it and I will be praying that you can get this resolved.

If this lady was indeed pointed POA I would think it would be filed with the courts in the county which she lives. Try there to get a copy. You can go before a judge and make your voice heard. Good luck!

AnArmyWife, It just goes to show you how many people can be "MANIPULATED" by covertness! I don't have any answers for you but, am sending you a hug!! I sure hope JAG can steer you in the right direction! Stay strong , as they say,..... good always prevails!!! I'm pullin for you.......Good Luck and Godbless

Call you local area of aging elder care and tell them your story. This person who is POA can be charged with fiduciary elder abuse. This is not cost to you and they will investigate on your mom's behalf. PLEASE CALL TODAY!

Ours county is the depart of aging and on our website there is a link that says abuse. That is where i went to submit a claim online and they phoned me within a day and set up my case with a caseworker. She was in my home and interviewed my dad within a week.

AnArmyWife, I'm just curious and forgive me for asking...back in 2004 did you know this other person was your mom's POA? Do you know her? Why has your mom never made you POA? Im confused and trying to fit the pieces together. This certainly is a huge mess. I don't blame you for being livid, I'm hacked off for you.

Keep me in the loop on this one. I've got a similar situation. I think this "friend" of my mother's convinced her that my being a military spouse at that time meant that I would not be reliable to be there for my mother. We are now retired from the military so this should not be a concern any longer. This "friend" of my mother lives closer to her than I do; she's claimed that she knows what's better for my mother than I do. I've not taken this to a legal fight yet but have considered it.

I called the Dept. of Aging, no dice any time soon. Next time for me to call to talk to an attorney will be Monday, all appointments have been filled for this week. I went up to see her today. OMG! She is back to close to her former self. Grr! And complaining loudly about everything! She was even getting after her nurse whom has been at her beckoned call since she got on duty this am. sigh I came in while they were doing an ABG (arterial blood gas) with my husband. She was sitting up and had attitude. No hi or anything. Just complaining. I hate how she just gets to me. Gets me all upset like last night thinking she is dying only to have her spring back and be in witch mode. This has happened twice now. And to whomever it was that talked to me about her being mad at me and switching it when she was mad is dead on. Like I was saying at some point, I drove down to FL to go see my biological mother. Mother was livid that I would betray her like that and go see this woman plus, I had written her a letter prior telling her why I was going and she needed to see she was wrong for not telling me I was adopted long before I was 35 years old. She has NEVER accepted her wrongness for anything. She either cries or gets ticked off and sent me to my room/away while yelling at me not to talk to her like that. Then she would go to the extreme of how she obviously screwed up everything she ever did to me... blah blah blah. NO ONE ever saw that side of her. Everyone got to see her "showtiming" for decades. No one could understand why I had such a problem with this sweet little old lady who never did anything wrong to anyone. I was a hurtful child in my later years, I did not respect her and exaggerated or flat out lied about her. Right. Now, people are starting to see the real her. Including her POA. What upsets me is that I really have no voice in all of this. Due to her idiocy on choosing her POA. The original POA was revoked. By using three attorneys cover the main one's butt to get it done. She also redid her will which once again I just found out about. She never tells me anything. I get to hear it second hand and it just infuriates me that everyone else knows everything about her but I am clueless. Her original POA would tell people that she told me what was going on with mother but that %^*$% lied! I never heard a word. In fact, I was the one to call her and tell her to get her butt up here to do her job. Which is when she had taken out everything out of the home. The current POA is better, still not perfect as he does not tell me anything unless I ask or he thinks it is important. sigh JAG cannot/will not help me because I am not their soldier. And family is nothing to them so it seems. (Not even going there.) They tell us we need to talk to someone in Elder Care. Many of her belongings have returned to her home due to this new POA, but I am not allowed inside to catalog everything that is still missing. And NO, the POA was not on file at the courthouse. Normally they are. But for some reason, it was not to be found. I would so love to suit that first POA.. I cannot until I get that paper! That woman lives in GA of all places. Her new POA lives a mile and a half from mom. The first POA had taken out a debit card and started up online banking along with taking out everything of value in the house. It has been crazy having to idly sit back and watch all of this happen and am not allowed to do anything. I am very angry.

Same train of thought, but more the "wonder why" side of this. I wonder why some folks think it's ok to prey on/con folks who appear to need assistance, whatever their age. My disabled adult daughter has been through this -- conned by those who sweet-talked her for assets, but left me to clean up when the "$**T hit the fan. My parent is as gullible. She loves to have attention (says she didn't get enough attention during the Depression years) and it just galls me that she prefers the person who she thinks the sun rises and sets on, brings her flowers and candy (which I'm sure she writes off as business exp.) and both items make my mother sick, but who hears the downside? Me, I hear about how the flowers trigger a sinus infection, or the candy makes her vomit and how miserable she is. She won't tell this woman, who by the way, is also bringing her alcohol even though my mother is not supposed to have it. This woman is my mother's accountant and says she does these things because she "has a soft spot for older women because they remind her of her g'ma." This woman does not get the odd hours emergency phone calls, I do. She does not come out and roll up her sleeves and crawl under my mother's nightstand to find the partial-denture that my mother "lost" and was freaking out about a new one for a thousand dollars. Plus all the S**! that I had to clean out under the nightstand, under the bed, around the house, figure out "lost" papers, and get a walker and lift-chair ordered. No, this woman breezes in "for a little 'ol visit" with a bottle, and chirpily tells my parent about her most recent trip to somewhere fun and lovely. I am different, I like practical things, and my most exciting trip was a camping trip to Niagra Falls, but it's good enough for me. I'm just boring but dutiful. One time when I was desperately in pain w/ back issues, I fussed at my parent to stop calling 6-8 times a day because I needed time in my time off to lie down on a heating pad. Yes, I was upset, but this was not reason to attempt changing POA work. It took me 2 years to get all the mess-ups corrected. In that time this other person would "breeze by" for fun, but she was not reliable. She does accounting from her home (certified yes, but I don't think she works hard) and almost missed getting paperwork in because she was going "on a trip." The woman does not understand much of what I convey to her when I try to discuss my mother's financials -- it's getting very worrisome. She just chirps, "oh, she's fine!" No, it's not fine and I worry every day what to do. There is a caregiver agency that provides housekeeping, transportation, and other needs; it's not as if there is no one else in my parent's life. It's just that this person who has messed with the status of POA does not understand "boundaries" and the Care Agency does. This is the summary of my "ponder" why do some folks think they have the right to overstep when it's not right to do so?

onlyoneholly, we share similar stories except the perp in mom's life was a caregiver from an agency, no less. The result of this long story was I got disowned, POA revoked, my name taken off the bank acct, the caregiver was named in the will but not me (it was like I never existed on this earth), legal problems at the wazoo and 2 years after my moms death, I've yet to be told by my sister that "our" mother died. Oh yes, I've asked that same question over and over and over again.