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The parent has already been put in to temporary care. The parent's spouse passed only 3 days ago and the care facility has asked that no one visit for 3 to 4 days.
My answer, since Dementia is involved, is no. I never took my Mom back to her house. I was afraid she wouldn't leave. It just makes the confusion worse to take them from the facility, to their home and back again.
You will get things done a lot quicker without the parent there. It would be like taking a toddler. The parent will not be able to makes decisions. I have been there. I cleaned out 60 yrs of stuff. TG we cleaned out the attic when she was still with it. I still had 4 bedrooms, bath, kitchen, pantry, livingvroom and her sitting room. It was a 125yr old farmhouse.
Do not bring your surviving parent back to the house. As a matter of fact if they are unaware that their spouse has died I would not tell them. If they ask say..."Oh they went to the store" Or "Oh, they are at the doctor's office" Going through the house and all the items including memories will be difficult enough for you without your parent there side tracking you with questions or not wanting to get rid of anything.
I wouldn’t take anyone back to their home. It would likely be confusing and too sad. And don’t mention the house sale. It’s a kindness not to change things around
We've done this with mother's stuff: Buy a bunch of cheap, big plastic bins and sort and store stuff in them. Labeled well, so we know, when the time comes, we either re-sort and distribute the stuff, or of it's to go straight to GoodWill or to the trash. They are stored in the basement, mother knows she hasn't 'let go' of anything and that seems to keep her happy enough.
She'll never move to a facility of any kind, she'll live out her life at YB's home, so he is storing all this stuff. Maybe if her mild dementia gets a lot worse, we'll clean out, but there is no rush.
No one has any business telling a widow(er) of three days they can't have visitors. That's heartless beyond belief.
Don't worry about clearing out the house right now (and no, you don't have the one with dementia get too involved). Go see them -- they must be devastated.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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My answer, since Dementia is involved, is no. I never took my Mom back to her house. I was afraid she wouldn't leave. It just makes the confusion worse to take them from the facility, to their home and back again.
You will get things done a lot quicker without the parent there. It would be like taking a toddler. The parent will not be able to makes decisions. I have been there. I cleaned out 60 yrs of stuff. TG we cleaned out the attic when she was still with it. I still had 4 bedrooms, bath, kitchen, pantry, livingvroom and her sitting room. It was a 125yr old farmhouse.
As a matter of fact if they are unaware that their spouse has died I would not tell them. If they ask say..."Oh they went to the store" Or "Oh, they are at the doctor's office"
Going through the house and all the items including memories will be difficult enough for you without your parent there side tracking you with questions or not wanting to get rid of anything.
She'll never move to a facility of any kind, she'll live out her life at YB's home, so he is storing all this stuff. Maybe if her mild dementia gets a lot worse, we'll clean out, but there is no rush.
Don't worry about clearing out the house right now (and no, you don't have the one with dementia get too involved). Go see them -- they must be devastated.